resources - holding on
These are a small selection of videos and sites you might want to look at if you are considering 'holding on'...
one day more
One Day More is an Irish support group made up of parents who received poor pre-natal prognoses for their babies.

From their website…’Some of our babies died shortly after birth, some before and some fortunately are still with us. We are here to support parents who find themselves in a similar situation.

We are here to offer to support to any parent who has just received a difficult prenatal prognosis for their baby. We found speaking to someone who had already gone through the experience was an enormous help and cannot be under-estimated. We also found that perinatal hospice care made the time we spent with our babies precious.’
perinatal hospice
This is a video created by Tammy Ruiz, a nurse in Washington DC.

It describes the concept of Perinatal Hospice – an approach that walks with families on their journey through pregnancy, birth and death, honouring the baby as well as the baby’s family.

Perinatal Hospice is not a place; it is more a frame of mind. It is a way of caring for the family and all involved with dignity and love.

See also www.perinatalhospice.org and Tammy’s blog on http://lifeandloss.wordpress.com
baby hospice
This is a site for families who are considering continuing a pregnancy knowing their baby’s life will be brief, or who have already begun this journey. It has been created by families who have been there. Even though our baby’s lives were achingly short, they contained love, beauty and value. We want to let you know about some of the things that helped us and hope to offer you a little solace. We honour your experience, your wisdom and your time with your precious baby.

Two other supportive websites:
Strings of Pearls - http://www.stringofpearlsonline.org/
Carrying to Term -
https://carryingtoterm.org/
resources - letting go
These are a small selection of sites you might want to look at if you are considering 'letting go'...
ending a wanted pregnancy
Ending a Wanted Pregnancy is a group of US-based moms and dads who have made the decision to end a wanted pregnancy following a poor prenatal diagnosis or for maternal health reasons. We know what a hard choice this is, and want to reach out with sympathy and support for other parents who have made similar choices. Our Mission is to create a safe, nonjudgmental environment where parents who have ended wanted pregnancies for medical reasons can find support and sympathy, and grieve their losses together.
https://endingawantedpregnancy.com/
a heartbreaking choice
This website supports women who have made the "Heartbreaking Choice" to terminate a much wanted pregnancy. For those who have undergone a pregnancy termination due to a poor prenatal diagnosis, problems with their own health, or for the health of another fetus (selective reduction). If you have had a pregnancy termination for medical reasons, we are here for you. You'll find articles on how to deal with the grief, stories from women just like you, who have have made this Heartbreaking Choice to end a much wanted pregnancy.

http://www.aheartbreakingchoice.com/
who to talk to
A new national abortion telehealth service called Decide is available in Aotearoa NZ.

Decide  connects people to abortion information, advice and counselling over the phone, from health practitioners anywhere in the country.

Decide has been rolled out in three phases. Referrals and information about abortion services was available from 26 April, 2022. Follow-up care and abortion-related counselling is available from 1 July 2022.

https://decide.org.nz/
There is a private group on Facebook for those in Aotearoa NZ - TFMR Support NZ (Termination for Medical Reasons)

Terminations Remembered
A new website created by a bereaved mum in the US, who ended a wanted pregnancy in 2107 due to Trisomy 13. Here is the link to the website.


 TFMR Mamas

TFMR Mamas is a non-profit group set up in the UK in October 2020. They support parents who have been faced with making the hardest decision about their baby due to medical complications with baby or with the mother/pregnant person.

The website offers many links to resources and the group offers monthly support groups (note the UK timezone).

Here is the link for their Facebook page
Here is the link for their website